5 Ways Being a Stay At Home Parent Saves You Money

The past 9 months have been the best investment we’ve ever made.

Kids are pretty awesome. And now that the iHB household has one, things have definitely changed a bit. Michelle has transitioned to being a stay-at-home mother and homemaker, which puts me as the sole provider for our family. This is a noble task that I was more than excited to accept, though there is definitely an added weight to my responsibility to make sure I am bringing home the bacon (mmmmm….bacon….). Getting pregnant prompted us to purchase life insurance, as well as go in depth on our budget plan and look at ways we could save enough money so we could continue to pay our bills. One of the cool things we came to realize as we went over our budget is that Michelle being at home was actually going to save us money in a few different places.

Here Are 5 Ways Being a Stay At Home Parent Saves Us Money

  1. Grocery Budget. Our grocery budget used to be a bit out of control. We were young, newly married DINKS (double-income-no-kids) working in fancy-pants-ville with a taste for good food and good wine. We also both worked full-time jobs and didn’t always have time to make lunches. I got free food at work, but Michelle did not. Our food budget was a bit higher due to lunches out, as well as more dinners out because we were both too exhausted to cook at the end of the day. But, now that Michelle is at home and we are using eMeals, most dinners are planned, Michelle has lunch at home and I get free lunch at work (as per usual). We are definitely saving money on our grocery budget, and eating healthier too!. Overall, we save about $50 a month on the grocery budget because of our kiddo.
  2. Diapers. Michelle posted about how we save money by using cloth diapers. If Michelle was not able to stay at home, we would not have been able to get started using cloth diapers, and therefore the savings would have been lost. Daycares DO NOT allow cloth diapering and require disposables be used, so this is not an option to do full-time without a stay-at-home parent. We could have done part-time, but we would have lost out on any savings. Overall, our savings by doing cloth diapers is about $35 a month.
  3. Gas Budget. We used to drop about $250 a month on gas for us to both drive to work and back. We were able to carpool a little bit, but not always. Now that Michelle is at home, our gas budget has dropped to about $150 a month. And, now that I am carpooling, I expect it to drop to about $100 a month. WooHoo!! So, overall, we’re going to be saving about $150 a month on the gas budget alone.
  4. Daycare. If we had to put our little guy in daycare, it could cost us upwards of $2,000 a month. YIKES! Heck, even J Money over at Budgets Are Sexy just posted that staying at home with his kid 2 days a week is saving him $900 a month! With Michelle at home, not only do we get the benefits of mommy raising our little guy, but we’re saving about $2,000 a month by having her stay at home.
  5. Taxes. Not only are we getting a sweet tax credit (and exemption) for the little guy, but Michelle being at home means we are bringing in less income than if she was working, therefore lowering our tax burden. I haven’t crunched the numbers, but I think it’s ballpark somewhere near $1,200 in tax savings just for removing her income. So that’s $100 a month savings by having Michelle at home with our extremely cute baby :)

Total Savings

I don’t think is an exhaustive list by any means, but just some of the areas we realized that we are able to save money because Michelle is staying at home. Our decision to have her at home raising our kids was not based solely on financial reasons, but finding out that it would cost over $2,000 a month if she kept working definitely reinforced our decision.

Overall, we are saving $2,335 a month by having Michelle at home!

Comments: Have you considered the cost savings of being a stay-at-home parent? Are there any other cost savings that you can think of that are not listed here?

Note: Things are definitely tighter financially in the iHB household, but we wouldn’t have it any other way. Like I’ve always said, managing your money is always about priorities, and Michelle being at home with our son is right up at the top. If you want some insight into the reasons we chose this, Michelle found a great post that she feels explains these reasons really well.

Why I Am Not Refinancing My Mortgage

To refinance, or to not refinance…?

I listen to talk radio. In fact, I rarely listen to music (which is funny for a guy who got an audio degree). And one thing I noticed is the commercials on talk radio stations seem to be much more sophisticated than those on the Top 40 radio stations. Here’s an example; I was listening to a music station for some reason (probably because there was a story on the talk station about a stupid celebrity doing something stupid again), and the first commercial that came on was for a company that staffs lawyers specifically to help clean up your troubles after getting a DUI (or multiple DUI’s, which apparently these people are experts at). Awesome. They are assuming if I listen to Top 40 constantly that I will drink heavily because of all the mind-numbingly bad music and end up getting a DUI. I flip back to the talk radio station and there’s a commercial from the radio host talking about how he’s refinanced his mortgage 4,300 times and has THE BEST RATE IN THE HISTORY OF POSSIBILITY! They pitch it hard, telling me to get in now, or I might lose out on these historically low rates! And though I usually want to crash the car right then due to the abysmal writing and acting for these commercials, I realized that they may be right about this one. Time to call the 800 number.

Our Home

We bought our house in 2010, and got a decent (at the time) 5% interest rate on our mortgage. We were happy with the rate, and haven’t really thought about refinancing because it probably wouldn’t be worth the hassle. Honestly, it has just been a bit of laziness on my part to not do the research and find this out. Something about listening to the same radio ad 1,423 times in a week got me motivated enough to make a phone call to the Re-Fi company and see if I could benefit at all.

Increased MIP

I chatted with the friendly fellow on the other line for a while, explaining my situation. We have a $313,000 FHA mortgage at 5% interest rate, and are paying a Mortgage Insurance Premium (or MIP). Our house does NOT have anywhere near 20% equity (probably more like 0%), and we were looking to see if we could save any money by refinancing our mortgage. He asked me what I was currently paying for MIP, and I could not find it on my monthly statements. So we reverse-calculated the costs of taxes and insurance, and found that I was paying roughly $145 a month for MIP.

He let me know that the government changed the MIP rate TWICE for FHA mortgages since we bought our home, and no, it didn’t go down (it’s the government, why would it). After punching in a few numbers, he stated that not only would our MIP go from $145 to (OMG!) $325 a month, but we would also have to add $5,477 to our mortgage as part of the capitalized up-front MIP cost. So we’d be paying interest on that. WOOHOO!  After calculating the “savings” from lowering our interest rate for 5% to 3.75%, we only had the potential to save about $50 a month ($231 interest savings minus the $180 increase in MIP).

But, we should also note the “loan origination fee” for refinancing our mortgage is typically about 1% of the total mortgage, so that’s $3,000 up front cash. Plus, another $400 to get the home appraised to make sure we’re not over the maximum LTV (loan-to-value) range for the refinance. SUPER! Not to mention, our “5 year MIP term” resets upon refinance, which means we’re stuck with this MIP payment for another 5 years, minimum.

The Wash

Taking all these factors into consideration, let’s look at the potential savings. We’re at $50 savings a month, times 5 years, which puts us at a $3,000 savings. Ok, so we’ve wiped out the origination fee. Assuming that we’re at 78% LTV at that point, we can kick the PMI, and go back to the $231 savings. Another 2 months, and we’ve knocked out the appraisal fee. So, it looks like if we plan on staying here another 5 years and two months, we can break even. BUT WAIT! You forgot about the up-front MIP cost. OH NOES! That’s another $5,477 that was tacked onto the principal and interest has been charged on that amount for the last 5 years. So, $5,477 x 3.75% x 5 years = over $1,000 in additional interest. So, to ACTUALLY BREAK EVEN, we would need to be in our home for roughly 3 more years. And this doesn’t even take into account that our MIP would disappear much sooner if we DON’T Re-Fi.

Conclusion

So, taking all of these factors into consideration, we have decided that it’s not worth the hassle to try and refinance our home. We would have to go through some kind of streamline Re-Fi process because of our lack of home equity, it would drag on forever, and we would burn WAY too much time on this for almost no return on investment, even if we stay here for 8 more years. Since we plan on moving about that point, it would be pointless and a waste of time to pursue a home refinance right now.

Comments: What are your thoughts? Is there anything I missed here? If you were in my shoes, what would you do? Would you refinance our home? Sell it? Light the thing on fire and collect the insurance money?

Weekly Wrap-Up, Mentions and Good Reads #18

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What Am I doing?

This week we finished the pergola over our patio. FINALLY!!! This project took much longer than anticipated, but mostly because I just got too busy hanging out with our little guy and having fun to finish. I’ll have a full write-up on this soon, but for now, here’s a teaser pic:

 

Not bad for DIY, huh?

We are helping move some great friends to our neighborhood this weekend, which is awesome. It’s great to have friends within walking distance, which is rare these days. Sunday I’m hoping to hang the gate on our fence so my dog can stop greeting our neighbors with her tongue.

Carnivals:

No Carnivals again this week. Seriously? Ok, this will not be empty next week!

Mentions:

There are other, very cool blogs who have been generous enough to mention iHeartBudgets on their sites. The list seems to be growing week by week. Anyone else who loves me as much as these people do, feel free to mention me as well to join the elite list below!

Work Save Live mentioned me in Carnivals, Mentions, and Weekend Reading #31

Street Smart Finance mentioned me in 6 Must Decisions for Your Financial Success

One Smart Dollar mentioned me in Personal Finance Week in Review for September 23

Skeptic Finance mentioned me in Weekly Favorites

Club Thrifty mentioned me twice in The VIP Club – Weekly Roundup 5th Edition

Modest Money mentioned me in End of September 2012 Blog Update

Money Smart Guides mentioned me in The Round Table – September 28, 2012

The Free Financial Advisor mentioned me in Blog Post of the Fortnight by Femme Frugality

Canadian Budget Binder mentioned me twice in Mr.CBB’s Weekly Blog Post Picks September 28,2012

Thanks for the love, glad you enjoy reading my junk! If I missed anyone, feel free to send me some hate mail :)

What’ I’ve Been Reading:

Every week, I do some reading on the web. I come across articles that are entertaining, educational, or just plain awesome. I think the readers of iHeartBudgets will enjoy these articles as well.

See Debt RunThe Surprisingly Dangerous Life Of A Suburban Wife And Mother

Money, Life and More - How I Bought A House On A Whim and Why You Shouldn’t

Thirty Six Months7 Creative Ways to Pay Off Debt

Consumerism CommentaryFor Financial Freedom: Reduce Expenses or Grow Income?

Making Sense of Cents - Cutting Expenses

Canadian Budget Binder - Multi-tasking Saving or Wasting Time For Employers

Modest Money – The Real Costs of Running a Blog Business

Average Joe – A Two Letter Key To Financial Success

20′s Finances – My Wife Voluntarily Took a Pay Cut

Club Thrifty - Why Being Out of Style is Cool

Frugal RulesAre Credit Cards Really That Bad?

Work Save Live - Stop Buying the Hype: The Average Rate of Return isn’t What You Really Earn

L Bee and the Money Tree - The Great Gift Cards Debate

Money Smart GuidesSick and Tired of How Much Romney Paid in Taxes

Married With Debt - Wealth Has Little to Do With Income

The College Investor - Two Quick Ways to Stay Frugal After Reaching a Goal

Weekend Advice

Fall is in the air, and it’s about to start getting colder and colder out. Take yourself and (if applicable) significant other on a nice stroll with a cup of hot cider or chocolate this weekend, and just enjoy the changing season. You won’t regret the time spent away from your technology and noise of daily life.

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